{"id":3375,"date":"2021-01-11T19:48:19","date_gmt":"2021-01-11T14:18:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lifegram.org\/?p=3375"},"modified":"2021-06-24T14:36:01","modified_gmt":"2021-06-24T09:06:01","slug":"how-to-build-self-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifegram.org\/how-to-build-self-confidence\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Build Self-Confidence &#8211; 7 Practical Ways"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\"><b>Looking for ways how to build self-confidence? How about starting with making yourself a priority and focusing on self-esteem in 2021?<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">As they say, \u201cSelf-confidence is a superpower. Once you start to believe in yourself, the magic starts happening.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">With every passing day, we all understand the importance of being confident and boosting our self-esteem. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">However, there are times when we feel clueless and lost, not really knowing what we should do when challenges knock on the doors. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">It\u2019s not hard to see why \u2014 people with a good sense of self-esteem consistently have better mental health and are happier and more successful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">But what happens when you don\u2019t have high self-esteem?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">As the new year has already set in, I\u2019m sure that all of us are contemplating on sticking to our <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lifegram.org\/new-year-resolution-ideas-2021\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">new year resolutions<\/a> and what can be better than working on our own selves.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"toc_container\" class=\"no_bullets\"><p class=\"toc_title\">Contents<\/p><ul class=\"toc_list\"><li><a href=\"#How_to_build_self-confidence\">How to build self-confidence:<\/a><ul><li><a href=\"#1_Make_yourself_a_priority\">1. Make yourself a priority.<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#2_Don8217t_wait_for_external_validation\">2. Don&#8217;t wait for external validation.<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#3_Stop_trying_to_please_everyone\">3. Stop trying to please everyone.<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#4_Focus_on_yourself_while_you_talk\">4. Focus on yourself while you talk.<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#5_Add_positivity_to_your_actions\">5. Add positivity to your actions.<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#6_Start_a_self-care_regime\">6. Start a self-care regime.<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#7_Be_grateful\">7. Be grateful.<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n<h2><span id=\"How_to_build_self-confidence\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">How to build self-confidence:<\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n<h3><span id=\"1_Make_yourself_a_priority\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">1. Make yourself a priority.<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Since childhood, we are socially conditioned and taught that putting other\u2019s needs before our own is a virtue while prioritizing our own needs is selfish. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">However, you can\u2019t have a good sense of self-esteem if you don\u2019t <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lifegram.org\/how-to-make-yourself-a-priority\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">make your own needs a priority<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">To boost your self-confidence, it&#8217;s important to understand what you need in life, what makes you happy, what brings peace to your mind, and focus on your own wellbeing. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">A happy &amp; peaceful mind will automatically enhance your self-confidence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"2_Don8217t_wait_for_external_validation\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">2. Don&#8217;t wait for external validation.<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">In today&#8217;s date, we often tend to put out the major life events on social media, seeking validation from the world. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Even if we know that we&#8217;ve done something good or achieved a goal, we still look forward to getting acknowledged by others.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Our confidence often depends on others&#8217; opinions &#8211; and when there&#8217;s no encouragement from the world, we tend to feel depressed or suffer from an inferiority complex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">The best way to enhance your self-confidence is to stop seeking external validation and be your own cheerleader. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Celebrate the little achievements and tell yourself that you&#8217;re good enough to fly high.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">To put it in the words of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.louisehay.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Louise L. Hay<\/a>, \u201c<span style=\"color: #ff6600;\"><em>You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn\u2019t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.<\/em><\/span>&#8220;<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"3_Stop_trying_to_please_everyone\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">3. Stop trying to please everyone.<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Let me be honest, if you spend your whole life trying to please everyone, you won\u2019t find personal happiness. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">People pleasers have an unfortunate habit of making everyone else a priority over themselves and pretending to be someone other than their authentic selves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">You need not do things that you don&#8217;t feel like doing, just for the sake of making others happy. If you wish to say &#8216;No&#8217; to something, feel free to do so.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">It&#8217;s an important step towards boosting your self-esteem and once you stop putting efforts into pleasing others, you&#8217;ll gather enough confidence to focus on yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"4_Focus_on_yourself_while_you_talk\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">4. Focus on yourself while you talk.<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Conversations reveal confidence and the way you talk says much about your personality. Part of developing healthy self-esteem requires analyzing how you talk to yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Negative self-talk (for example, &#8216;I think I can&#8217;t do this&#8217;) creates a feedback loop where your self-esteem drops, which leads to more negative self-talk.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">The most effective way to break the cycle is to counter that negative self-talk through being kind and positive towards yourself. Make a habit to appreciate yourself every day before going to bed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Also, when you talk to others, look straight into their eyes, and have a smile on your face. This will add a charm to your conversation and reveal your self-confidence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"5_Add_positivity_to_your_actions\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">5. Add positivity to your actions.<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">To think positive isn&#8217;t enough &#8211; you need to act positively as well. Actions, actually, are the key to developing self-confidence. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">It\u2019s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you can actually change yourself, one action at a time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Act in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can\u2019t &#8211; nurture a positive attitude in life. You\u2019ll soon start to notice a difference.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"6_Start_a_self-care_regime\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">6. Start a self-care regime.<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Good living helps to bring stability in life, and thus, boosts self-confidence. By self-care, I mean taking care of the body, mind, and soul. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Eating a well-balanced diet, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep are immensely important steps towards self-care.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">But there&#8217;s a lot more that one can do. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lifegram.org\/best-self-care-activities\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Start your daily self-care regime<\/a> by meditating in the morning &#8211; this would help to kick-start your day in a mindful way, enhance your concentration, and help you to keep the negative thoughts at bay! <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Make sure to drink enough water (at least eight glasses a day). <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">If possible, try doing yoga &#8211; which will not only increase the flexibility of your body but also help you to gain consciousness about your body parts. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Journalling is another very important self-care, where you can assess your actions, keep a note of what made you happy and what didn&#8217;t work out the way you wanted so that you can do better the next time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>Related:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.lifegram.org\/category\/journal\/\">Journal writing ideas<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"7_Be_grateful\"><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">7. Be grateful.<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">It is extremely important to cultivate a healthy sense of self-esteem which also involves the ability to be grateful for what you have. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Someone will always have something more than you &#8211; whether it&#8217;s money, good looks, intellect, etc.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">But you are no less and you have something special, that makes you unique. Instead of getting caught up in what you don\u2019t have that others do, focus on what it is that you do have. Be grateful. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">When you focus on being grateful for the things that you do have, you start to feel happier with your life and more self-assured.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>Related<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lifegram.org\/how-to-start-a-gratitude-journal\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">How to start a gratitude journal &#8211; Beginner&#8217;s guidebook<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Practicing these might not be easy at first due to ingrained habits developed over a lifetime, but if you consistently try these actions every day they will start to become second nature and you will start to see an improvement in your self-esteem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>[optin-monster slug=&#8221;ofzgfgq5ljbqtukramsl&#8221;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Looking for ways how to build self-confidence? 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