{"id":5665,"date":"2021-12-24T16:16:50","date_gmt":"2021-12-24T10:46:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.lifegram.org\/?p=5665"},"modified":"2021-12-24T21:51:09","modified_gmt":"2021-12-24T16:21:09","slug":"ways-to-stop-being-so-hard-on-yourself","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.lifegram.org\/ways-to-stop-being-so-hard-on-yourself\/","title":{"rendered":"The Best 6 Ways to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">One of the best ways to stop being so hard on yourself is to understand the root cause. Here are 6 powerful ways to overcome this situation &amp; be more productive everyday.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">When we were children, we often felt confident. We had that spark of innocence and joy, and we didn&#8217;t know what it was to feel inadequate. But as we grew up, our worlds got bigger and more complex.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">As a result, we started to wonder if we&#8217;re good enough for this world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">We might compare ourselves to others or set unrealistic expectations for ourselves based on other people&#8217;s standards. This is particularly the case when it comes to perfectionism.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Whenever we want to do something, it has to be done just right even if this means spending hours on end agonizing over what simple word should go in a sentence, or which outfit looks the best.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><em><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Here are 6 working ways you can stop being so hard on yourself and let go of your attitude to become a perfectionist.<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div id=\"toc_container\" class=\"no_bullets\"><p class=\"toc_title\">Contents<\/p><ul class=\"toc_list\"><li><a href=\"#1_Understand_the_roots_of_your_perfectionism\">1. Understand the roots of your perfectionism<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#2_Find_support\">2. Find support<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#3_Use_positive_self-talk\">3. Use positive self-talk<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#4_Make_time_for_yourself\">4. Make time for yourself<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#5_Permit_yourself_to_make_mistakes\">5. Permit yourself to make mistakes<\/a><\/li><li><a href=\"#6_Challenge_your_beliefs\">6. Challenge your beliefs<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/div>\n<h3><span id=\"1_Understand_the_roots_of_your_perfectionism\"><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18pt;\">1. Understand the roots of your perfectionism<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">One of the best ways to stop being hard on yourself is to understand the roots of your perfectionism.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">For some, it might be that they never got the support they needed growing up. For others, it might be their fear of failure. Whatever the reason, understanding why you are so hard on yourself is the first step to overcoming it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Take some time for yourself to really think about what your perfectionism means. <\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">What are you trying to achieve?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">What are you afraid of if you don&#8217;t succeed? <\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">What would happen if you just accepted that you&#8217;re not perfect and that&#8217;s okay?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Once you answer these questions, it will be easier to take the next step-letting go of your perfectionism.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">But there are also other ways you can stop being hard on yourself if this doesn&#8217;t work for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"2_Find_support\"><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18pt;\">2. Find support<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">If you find that you&#8217;re being too hard on yourself, it&#8217;s time to stop. Find someone you trust that you can talk to about your struggles. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">This could be a friend, family member, co-worker, or even a therapist. Talking to someone about the things that are troubling you will allow you to gain perspective on the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">You should also take time for yourself every day. Turn off your phone, put your computer away, and spend some time alone. Doing this will allow you to come back to the world feeling refreshed and ready to take on anything.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Finally, write down your worries. By getting them down on paper, you&#8217;ll find that they don&#8217;t seem as daunting as before. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">And if you still can&#8217;t shake that feeling of not being good enough? Keep writing. It feels good to get all of your thoughts out even if it seems like no one else will read them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">By letting go of perfectionism and stopping to worry about things, you will find so much more success in your endeavors.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"3_Use_positive_self-talk\"><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18pt;\">3. Use positive self-talk<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Your inner voice is always with you. There&#8217;s no way to avoid it. However, you can make it work for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">The first step in stopping yourself from being so hard on yourself is to set up a positive inner voice. You can do this by saying things like, &#8220;You&#8217;re doing just fine, don&#8217;t worry.&#8221;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">You might be surprised at how much power this simple act has. Once you start telling yourself that you&#8217;re doing just fine, you might have more confidence or be able to overlook your mistakes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"4_Make_time_for_yourself\"><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18pt;\">4. Make time for yourself<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">When we feel overwhelmed and overworked, we need to <a href=\"https:\/\/www.lifegram.org\/ways-how-to-make-time-for-yourself\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">make time for ourselves<\/a>. One of the most effective ways to start is by taking a break.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">It can be hard to justify leaving your work to take a break, but it&#8217;s important to recognize that this isn&#8217;t just about you, your employees and customers will appreciate it too. When you take a break, do something that makes you happy. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Whether that\u2019s spending time with friends or family, or just sitting outside and enjoying the sunshine, time for yourself is important and should not be underestimated.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"5_Permit_yourself_to_make_mistakes\"><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18pt;\">5. Permit yourself to make mistakes<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">When we&#8217;re our own harshest critics, we often put too much pressure on ourselves to succeed or do everything perfectly. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">The problem with this is that we end up avoiding tasks we might otherwise enjoy because we&#8217;re afraid of doing them wrong.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Instead, when you&#8217;re feeling like you&#8217;re not good enough, give yourself permission to make mistakes and do things imperfectly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">You&#8217;ll find that taking risks won&#8217;t be as scary when you permit yourself to do them wrong sometimes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h3><span id=\"6_Challenge_your_beliefs\"><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18pt;\">6. Challenge your beliefs<\/span><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">The last step to battling your inner critic is to challenge your beliefs. Start by looking at the answers to a few questions:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">What does it mean for me to be perfect?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">What would happen if I wasn&#8217;t perfect?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Would not being perfect really be that bad?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">What would happen if I wasn&#8217;t perfect?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Asking yourself these questions can help you understand why you&#8217;re so hard on yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Another way you can challenge your beliefs is by looking at what perfectionism is costing you. For example, if you&#8217;re not able to spend time with your family because you&#8217;re too busy trying to perfect your work, your relationship may start to suffer. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">If you&#8217;re constantly criticizing yourself for not being good enough, it might lead to depression or anxiety.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Challenging your beliefs is key to overcoming perfectionism.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;\">Conclusion<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">You might not think that perfectionism is a problem. You might even think that it&#8217;s a good thing because it encourages you to do your best.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">But perfectionism can take its toll on your mental health and wellbeing. If you&#8217;re constantly putting pressure on yourself to do the perfect job, it might lead to self-sabotage. The pressure might make you procrastinate, or it might make you avoid any task at all.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">This can lead to a vicious cycle where the more you avoid a task, the less confident you&#8217;ll feel. You&#8217;ll stop believing in your abilities or even your worth as a person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">The good news is that it is possible to interrupt this pattern. One way is to acknowledge that perfectionism is a problem for you and take steps to work on it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">For example, you could start by reducing the number of tasks you give yourself or by setting specific time limits for each task. You could also have a list of what counts as \u201cgood enough\u201d so you don&#8217;t have to worry about being perfect.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">You might find that being a little bit less hard on yourself will lead to a much better life!<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of the best ways to stop being so hard on yourself is to understand the root cause. Here are 6 powerful ways to overcome this situation &amp; be more productive everyday. When we were children, we often felt confident. 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